Losing Weight Considered – Losing 20 Pounds
Some folks appear to have it all – and everything they do seems to fall easily into place. On the other hand, we know others who never quite make it, and always have an answer why things haven’t worked out. It usually comes down to attitude, where the victors maintain a good attitude, and the victims maintain a poor one.
When embarking on a slimming regime, it’s critical to take on the outlook of the victor to get your result. Victims attempt actions over-cautiously, hoping for good things, but never really feeling they’re worthy of great results. However a victor has already visualised his or her success mentally before the reality catches up.
Visualise the finale of a tennis championship, where the player’s attitudes are as follows: One says “It’s my last chance – I’ll give it my best shot,” but the other says “Winning is my destiny.” Who do you think is taking the cup home with him?
If we split up the word OAR we have the definition of a victor – someone who takes Ownership of his or her task, is Accountable for their actions and assumes Responsibility for getting it done. The victim can be defined by the term BED – one who stays in bed and gives up. BED = Blame, Excuses and Denial.
Not relying on others, but taking ownership of the job is a strong characteristic of a victor. He’s liable for his actions, and so he takes account of them (seeing things through by dealing with problems not making problems). He’s responsible for the results of his actions, and so doesn’t take excuses from himself.
However, as far as the victim is concerned, it’s never his fault when he doesn’t achieve. He can always find fault with another person – as if that person was in control, not him. He always makes excuse for his lack of performance, but the only person he’s persuading is himself. After repeating this cycle of excuses and blame for a while, the victim is in denial. He’s absolutely convinced that there isn’t anything he can do to change things.
To stack the odds in their favour, a mental work-out may be needed for some dieters approaching a life-changing eating program. To really embrace the health-enhancing program, any traces of the victim syndrome have to be wiped out.
Continual positive repetition will change a victim’s attitude to that of a victor. Listen to the voice inside your head – if it sounds like a victim, then stop it and verbalise why you can succeed. Nobody else is superior to you – some have just conquered their victimisation thinking and achieved their success.
We don’t start out as victors, we learn the habits of victors to accomplish our goals. We have to have the mind-set of a winner in order to achieve the weight we want ourselves to be.
